You know the drill: you’re all set for a date, she sounds excited about it all week, and then at the last minute, she cancels and gives you some B.S. excuse for why she can’t make it.
Well, today I want to share with you a quick texting tip from the Girlfriend Activation System to keep girls from flaking on you in the future. I’ll even let Christian, author of the Girlfriend Activation System and the award-winning How2TXTHer program, chime in and give you some exact texts you can use.
If you want to keep a girl from flaking out, you’ll want to send these texts around 1PM on the day of your date. I’m sure you’re thinking, why 1PM? Well, as Christian points out:
“That’s right around when she’s thinking about whether or not she wants to commit to going out with you that night. By 3, she’s made a decision, and if you haven’t reached out to her by then, chances are she’ll reach out to you… either to confirm, or to cancel. So – why not help her make the right choice?”
The reason women flake out is because their feelings and emotions are constantly changing. When she agreed to go on a date, she was feeling really good about you. But that doesn’t mean she’s 100% committed.
A lot of things can happen between the time you first ask her out and the time the actual date rolls around. For example, maybe you’re not the only guy she met that night. Maybe she gets in a fight with her ex during the week. Or finds out she’s not getting the raise at work she’s been hoping for.
Hundreds of things can affect her mood on a daily basis. If she’s in a bad emotional state on the day of the date, she can flake out if she’s not already extremely invested in you. So what can you do? How can you keep a girl from flaking out on you?
I’ll let Christian explain:
“Now as we already learned, she agreed to go out with you when she was in a good emotional state. So if we don’t want her to flake on the date, then our best bet is to put her back in a good emotional state… or in other words, put a smile on her face and maybe make her laugh a little bit.
Enter the “False Choice.”
It’s a simple question you send to her, phrased in such a way that there’s one obvious, correct choice for her to make… and a second choice, which is funny, ridiculous, and which she’d never choose.
So here’s an example from my single days.
I sent her a message that said: “excited about tonight?”
I didn’t know this girl too well yet, so I was testing the waters.
She replied “yeah, what’s the plan?”
Often, girls want to know what you have planned – this will factor into their decision of going out with you or not. If they’re thinking about putting effort into doing themselves up, they want to see that you’ve put some effort into planning a date.
So put some effort into planning your dates… don’t be half-assed about showing a girl a good time!
And when she says “yeah what’s the plan?” I followed up with..
“Come by mine for dinner around 7, we’ll make some blackened salmon and open a nice bottle of pinot noir. Or we could go fishing in the east river? I’ll get the poles if you get the worms.”
Now obviously, there was no chance we were going to go fishing in the east river. But this false choice made her laugh, and she was over at mine a few minutes after 7. It was a memorable night 😉
Here’s another one I sent when I was living in New York:
“Hey, let’s meet down here in soho at 9 for a drink… unless you’d prefer midnight in the Bronx for some breaking and entering?”
And yeah… if she’d chosen the breaking and entering option, that would have been a red flag. It was obviously a false choice, and of course, she thought it was funny.
Here’s a final example. Sometimes, if you’re a date or two in with a girl, and things are going well, you can be spontaneous and ask her if she’d like to do a quick, unplanned date. So you might send her something like:
“I am feeling ice-creamy-ish-stuff right now. come with?”
And she might reply…
“oh sounds interesting! what are you thinking?”
To which you’d reply:
“we can get pinkberry. or mochi at nobu. either way, really.”
Nobu is one of the most expensive Japanese restaurants in New York, so it should be obvious to her that we’re not planning to just pop in there for ice cream. And if it’s not, well…
So that’s the false choice. A simple message to make her laugh, sent around 1pm on the day of the date.”
Simple. Easy. Damn effective!
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